I appreciate your honesty in this piece. It’s rare to hear the POV of the one who did the cheating. I neither applaud your decision nor condemn you - a relationship is so complicated, often barely understood by the people in it let alone observers. My husband had an affair after 27 years of our being together. I was devastated beyond words; we immediately separated and are now divorced. I have long been grateful that he did not remain with the woman he had been with as that would have made it so much harder for me and our kids to move on. There are no easy answers in these situations. I wish happiness for my ex-husband, and I don’t wish I could change what happened. It shook me to my core and changed me in ways I am glad about. I will be interested in reading your story as it unfolds.