In the aftermath of my separation, the hardest part was functioning for my kids, soothing their grief while tabling mine, trying to show moments of joy and gratitude when I felt nothing but terrified and depressed. It feels like an impossible task for a mother, but a mother is, after all, a human being, and showing that your love is constant even when nothing else is truly is enough. I remember during my very difficult time my own mother said to me, perhaps the trick is not trying to keep everything together so well but modeling resilience, your kids will see that when your world fell apart you still showed up for them - differently than before (like serving lucky charms for dinner) but with as much love and concern as ever. Wishing you strength and compassion for yourself.