People are so quick to judge and the truth is always that we can’t see inside another couples marriage and decide who is responsible for what. Affairs hurt the unknowing party in ways they will have to grapple with for years. That is true for me. But the point of reading other peoples work here is to understand, connect and learn. I am always grateful for the other perspective. I don’t totally understand why my husband cheated or why I immediately knew our marriage was over when I found it. It’s been four years and I continue to learn and grow and process. I am not approving of your decisions necessarily but I am appreciative of your willingness to go deep and share your honest thoughts. I’m not judging, but I am certainly learning.