Thank you for this honest and heartfelt response. It's interesting, we are both on different sides of the coin and clearly it's difficult either way you flip it. The "what if's" are torturous and even though we know it's not terribly helpful to ask them, it's hard to stop oneself. I had a close friend whose husband had an affair and she stayed. Years later, she struggled to still feel invested; she just could never fully recover, and told him she wants out. Unlike my husband, hers was very apologetic and owned his actions; that said, it's very hard to ever feel the same again after a betrayal, and of course each of our circumstances are so different. I am grateful you shared a bit of your story with me.