Thank you for this very thoughtful feedback. I’m mulling over what you said — it sounds right to me, and I want to believe it is so. The rational part of me says yes, the family that raised me is my family and my past, present and future. But there is an unsettling feeling I have that this is not wholly so, and I can’t shake it or rationalize it away. I think it’s important to give space to both sides — the parts that feel they belong and the parts that feel they don’t. That’s just the honest truth, even though it hurts.