This is a beautiful and honest piece. Thank you for sharing it. It’s true that people don’t talk about infidelity so when you experience it in your marriage, you likely feel very alone. When my husband and I separated after his affair, two friends confused in me that they had experienced the same but had found a way to stay. I wanted to but my husband was so determined to use the affair as a catalyst for change that he couldn’t look hard enough at the hurt and it made it very difficult to get past it. We are divorced now, but no matter what - staying together, splitting apart - one has to be brave and vulnerable.