Very honest and beautifully told. I relate to this so much, to losing the identity that came with being a wife after decades of marriage. It's been so hard to explain to friends who have not gone through a divorce that it's not being suddenly alone that is the true challenge, but the grappling with who I am now that I'm not part of the "we" I thought was forever. I don't care that he's with another woman (honestly, let her have him!) but I do mind feeling replaced in my own home, in the kitchen and the bed that were once mine. That said, I know where I stand with our three kids and that replacement is not an option. I am losing and gaining identities as we speak - but no matter what the role I play in my kids lives remains constant and at the end of the day, that's all that truly matters to me.