What a thoughtful and interesting response — thank you for the careful reading and for putting thought into it. You just made me think about how I sometimes beat myself up that I didn’t give our marriage more of a try after I learned of his affair but how I was so stuck on something he had told me right when I found out: that we could rebuild our relationship and be better than ever. I kept thinking, how could we be better if we are still the same people and I am not interested in living a different life than the one we’ve been living? So maybe you’re right, it wasn’t a question of being enough as much as it was a question of being someone other than who he wanted. Thank you — I appreciate this feedback so much.