Reflections on Identity

Why Wasn’t I Enough?

The elusive question of enoughness in a marriage, and who gets to decide

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Four years after the demise of my decades-long marriage, I struggle to put this question to bed: why wasn’t I enough?

It had not occurred to me while I was in it that it might end — truly, never. It wasn’t just that I…

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Author of AVAILABLE: A Very Honest Account of Life After Divorce (Boro/HarperUK June ‘21; coming in May ‘22 from Harper360). Mom of three, New Yorker.

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Laura Friedman Williams

Laura Friedman Williams

Author of AVAILABLE: A Very Honest Account of Life After Divorce (Boro/HarperUK June ‘21; coming in May ‘22 from Harper360). Mom of three, New Yorker.

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